Another form of rip off?

[Anna]

A question I’ve been pondering of late…

I’m beginning to get the feeling that some buyers get their ‘kicks’ from window shopping, when I say window shopping I don’t mean buyers who look in various windows comparing prices, knickers, sellers and asking a few questions in order to feel comfortable and secure enough to part with their hard-earned cash.

I’m talking about the sort of cretins who go into a newsagents, read all the mags and then leave without buying anything!  I’ve had a couple of ‘buyers’ who have all sorts of questions, what I do, what I provide, what they get for their money etc, which yes, I agree is perfectly acceptable and so I have answered in full despite my site giving that very info….but then they ask the same questions in a different way and want to be reminded of all the answers already given.  There is then no order and you never hear from the buyer again.

Now my problem is this: was it just a case that the buyer was genuinely window shopping but wasn’t happy with me?  Or was it a case of him getting his kicks by emailing or PMing with me with absolutely no intention of paying in the first place!  ie the conversation and description was enough for him to…um…get what he wanted.

How much is enough info to satisfy the genuine buyer, and how much is too much info that then leaves us open to being exploited by miserly skinflints?
:huh:

Am I naivé or just plain old blooming suspicious?
:unsure:

[lil_pornstar]

Ive been getting the same thing I had someone email me with genuine questions then things like what are you wearing now and im getting hot from you and crap like that I just said in the end – sex chat costs so please refrain from emailing me unless you have any intention of paying for my services. I still get the odd weird email but I ignore them now – this has been going on for over a month and no order from him.
Its a shame creeps like that ruin it for everyone.

[Cindy_PantyParadise]

Yep sorry girls you are being used as a “cheap thrill trick” I call it – and its usually always the newbies that get targetted. 

Just say politely, “hey if you want to continue this conversation then Im going to have to charge …”

Its only fair.  The amount of hours I have spent sending dirty emails to potential clients and them NEVER buying. I dont do it anymore and just humour them and then they get bored or I just send back short one-sentence answers.

Girls you are TOO busy for this crap – concentrate on your real buyers and stop letting the time wasters waste your time.

I know its hard as you dont want to upset anyone or perhaps hinder a potential sale, but if the emails are just getting hotter and hotter without going anywhere, then you have to say something.  No need to be rude or get pissed off, just be honest and pull on the reins a bit – or charge for your time! 🙂

Love Cinds x

[lil_pornstar]

Yeah trouble is I have hardly any customers – I have 2 to be presice so its hard not to give in – but I thought well Id rather loose potential customers than be used as a cheap thrill.  🙂

[Anna]

I’m prepared to chat with my buyers but after that one particular incident I’ve been curt with those who ask questions when the answers are on my site.

When I say curt I mean I politely direct them to my site and say I’m prepared to give answers not already given.  Interesting he never contacted me again.  :rolleyes:

Lil, I’ll let you know who he is….. 😉

[lil_pornstar]

Big thanks to you – Ill look back on my emails and let you know who my creep is
Maybe we could get a section on the board for us to post up who is rip off’ s ect?

[darkhairedkaren]

Yeah, some guys want you to fulfill their fantasies without paying a dime.  I find, when I mention price/payment, most of these time-wasters vanish.

Just keep your responses polite, to-the-point, and professional.  No sex chat.  I have had some guys ask me dozens of questions…  then actually order and pay for something.  :ohmy:  When it’s happened I’ve always been a little surprised – I think I’ve been dealing with people over the internet for too long!  :cheer:

[jazzy]

New Ladies;
As a buyer i have to say i have found the perfect lady.(Cindy)
Once you get more established you will find out the good buyers from the rest.
I now have a dear friend ,rather than a panty seller and all that is required is trust and good manners which then works both ways.I know you must get some weirdo’s now and again but you will soon get to spot them.Now as a member on here i have made many new friends,too many to mention,so best wishes to you all and remember my ”quote”

It’s Nice to be Nice……..

:laugh:  Jazzy    :laugh:

[Asianpantylace]

I cant tell you how frustrating it is,I myself am a newbie with only 12 real customers that purchase more than just once.I used to be able to open my IM and had fun talking to my men,But now you open the IM and 10 ims all show up.Its like a feeding frenzy,being overwhelmed and frustrated by guys who want to cyber or send me more pics so I can decide if they want to purchase  mean while they are jacking off on my time.This lifestyle was fun but latley the fun is losing ground.I am just glad to see I am not the only one dealing with it.

[Anonymous]

It happened to me too so many times before I learned how to handle these guys. Especially eastern european and turkish guys seem to try to get free cybering from you. Not saying that there are not nice buyers amongst them as well though.

Few months ago, it seemed like they swarmed on me. I spent so much time on them and got no money at all. It made me stop selling and basically stop doing anything in this area for a while.

But hey, I am back. 😉

I am being polite and nice, but my limit to non-buyer looking guys is 5-6 emails. If they do not decide till then, I ask them to either choose some item from my list or leave. It works for most of them.

[Delicious_Jess]

I’d be a bit careful about those methods.

I tell all my guys to go out and talk to the seller first. If the girl tells them to get lost because they’re not buying then I think it best they avoid. For a lot of guys it’s not just the panties they want. It’s the chatting and interaction with a lovely girl. A bit of relief in a dull day.

I have a handful of guys that are really dear to me, most I’ve had from the begining. They didn’t buy from me, in fact they’ve hardly needed to since because I like to look after them when I can. In return they’ve helped me out when I was up to my neck in trouble and let me bend their ear when I wanted. If I had told them to take a running jump then I’d have lost them and lost much more than an £18 panty sale.

There are an awful lot of people out for freebies but don’t let them wreck it for all the good guys. If you interact then you’ll have guys that will want to keep you forever (and that you’ll want to keep forever) If you sell your time you’ll have a lot of one time buyers and that’ll be it. When they find a girl they can have panties and chat from the time seller will be out the window. I know this because I’ve got those very guys :laugh:

I’m firm on what I will and won’t do. I don’t do free photos, IM, camming or email sex. If a guys first email is a dirty one obviously don’t entertain him until the cows come home hoping for a sale.

Be savy rather than dismisive of everyone. There’s some truely lovely guys out there. There’s a few good sellers out there….there’s even less good buyers. Just like the guys have to hunt for a good seller you have to hunt for a good buyer. You may not get a sale but you may have lost more than you realise.

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[tastykacie]

Hi Jess,
As a new seller myself, I just want to say thanks for writing that. It made a lot of sense to me. I was a bit nervous after reading those previous posts that any guy who doesn’t buy right away is only after a freebie.
So, thanks for what I think is some great advice.

[Delicious_Jess]

Awwww, cheers Kacie! You’re a honey  :kiss:

smt

[Krooze]

Well Anna, does this mean my talking naughty to you was out of line:huh:?  :unsure:

B)

[Anna]

[quote author=Krooze link=topic=1072.msg6810#msg6810 date=1146877014]
Well Anna, does this mean my talking naughty to you was out of line:huh:?  :unsure:

B)

Hell no Krooze, that was okay, I get plenty from our little thang….just wondering why you stopped 😉

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